Are there some list of

A good list is found on the DOE website: http://apps1.eere.energy.gov/buildings/tools_directory/ yes, you can use eQuest. At the moment many packages can also work seperately doing different parts of the simulation requirements. There are also more incompasing softwares. We use energyplus with Design Builder as the front end user interface. If I had to do a BIM project, I may consider the Bently-Microstation offering. Ecotec also has good interfaces, and supports gbXML and radiance output files. Transis is good for small and very special or detailed applications. With software it's often hourses for courses. For example, I personally dislike the current Autodesk products, but that doesn't mean they are bad. I dislike their design in areas I consider important.

DesingBuilder. i think its the best

The criteria used for acceptable software is contained in ASHRAE 90.1 Appendix G - G2.2. Any software which can demonstrate compliance with these criteria is acceptable. Only exception granted that I am aware of is using Energy10 for appropriiate projects.